humility is not just a river in egypt.

Last Friday I received word that RELEVANT magazine would be sharing my thoughts and the thoughts of my residents expressed here regarding the #FitchTheHomeless campaign. After quickly cramming, cutting and moving words around to fit the editor’s direction I sent it in, still shell-shocked that it was being published. The reaction it’s received has blown my mind, one of the coolest things being that many people have reached out to share their stories and methods of caring for a people group that are so very dear to my heart! I am so honored! Please, if you feel led, keep telling your stories. My hope is to figure out a way to connect us all, either through the internet or some other fashion.

After sharing this with a couple residents yesterday I showed them the final product of the article….

Mr. AB: This is awesome. I’m glad you wrote it, but where’s my picture?? I’m fine, girl.

Mr. TD: Your picture? That wouldn’t work, her picture had to be on there so it can be used to finally get her a date!

Miss LM: Wait, you finally joined a dating site? Thank God. You’re not getting any younger.

Mr. AB: Woooweee! I can’t wait to dance at your wedding, girl!

Me: Wait guys, no. I didn’t write this to get a date, I wrote it for YOU!

Mr. AB: Yeah, yeah, yeah, we get that and we love it, we really do, but what we really love is that maybe, just maybe this means you aren’t going to die alone! Yahooo!

I think it’s pretty safe to say these folks will keep me humble.

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#FitchTheHomeless 2.0 [A Homeless Perspective]

Two nights ago I wrote this post in response to the recent video made by Greg Karber, in which he attempts to “rebrand” Abercrombie & Fitch. I’ll be honest, I expected about 100 or so people to read and not pay too much mind to it, but I was wrong. The post the currently has generated almost 4,000 hits and has been reposted 398 times on Twitter and Facebook. WHAT?! To say I am shocked and humbled is perhaps the understatement of the century. To that I say, thank you. Thank you for caring enough about this topic to begin the conversation with the people around you.

I received so many positive tweets, comments, texts and private messages yesterday it was hard to focus on much else to be quite honest with you. Along with said positivity, I also received quite a few responses in disagreement, which I welcome, I truly believe we do some of our best learning when respectfully dialoguing with one another. Although I can understand many of their viewpoints (ie; A&F needs to be stopped, homeless people are receiving clothes, it wasn’t meant to be harmful), it’s hard for me to watch that video and then turn around and look into the faces of these amazing folks I get to work alongside and not feel a bit indignant, as whether it was intended or not, the filmmaker appears to have made homeless people one half of the punch-line.

In thinking about the vantage point I have in being on the frontlines, I thought it might be best to let you all hear from them. I decided to simply show some of the people I work with the video and write down what was said, unaltered.

This is what I heard:

“What is Abercombie and Finch? Is that a white person store?”

“Wow, that CEO guy is a bad dude.”

“Did he just call Skid Row ‘East Los Angeles?’ He needs to recheck that map.”

“Why the hell would he pass out clothes to us that he said date rapists wear?!”

“I’ve seen my nephew wear that brand of clothing. I don’t think he’s a date rapist…I hope not at least.”

“It doesn’t look like he is explaining what he is doing to anyone he is giving clothes to. That’s not right.”

“Why isn’t he talking to people when he gives them the clothes? I hate it when people who think they are do-gooders act like that.”

“Why did he just give that large man those tiny pants? I thought he just said they don’t make those sizes? That doesn’t seem very helpful at all.”

“He’s not even asking if he can film them, does he think this is a zoo?”

“Hey! There’s our building! I’m glad he didn’t come in.”

“Why would we want our ‘own brand of clothing?’ Especially clothing he said douche bags wear.”

“If you asked us to do this, maybe we would, but I’m not interested in being this guys billboard or social cause, unless it’s to get people homes.”

“We may be homeless, but that doesn’t mean we want to wear ‘douchey’ clothes to prove a point — what purpose would that serve, to dehumanize us even more than we already have been??”

“If someone walked up to me to take a picture of me to put on the internet I would be really pissed off.”

The last comment I heard was made by a sweet woman, whom sat quietly watching and then simply stated, “Well, that sort of hurt my feelings.” Really, does much more than that even need to be said? I don’t for one, believe so.

All in all, do I believe that Greg Karber began this project in malice toward the patrons of Skid Row? No, I’d like to believe he didn’t. But that does not change the reality that this project is attempting to protect one people group while hurting another and I have to believe that there must be a better way.

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#fitchthehomeless

In the last 12 hours this video has been sent to me several times, mostly with notes of ‘awesome, look at this!,’ while only one claiming Greg Karber (video maker) is missing the mark (that is actually a very mild way of paraphrasing). Here are my thoughts, if you care to read, if you’d prefer to stick with the awesome funny posts I won’t be mad and promise to [attempt to] make you laugh next time.

I have have always disliked Abercrombie & Fitch. Perhaps it’s because their price point was beyond what my parents would spend for me in high school or perhaps it has more to do with the fact that I spent half of high school dressed like I could actually stand on a surfboard for longer than 6 seconds and the other half dressed like Kurt Cobain. There’s also the chance that I simply have an aversion to smelling like a high school boy fresh from the showers every time I leave the store (I am a girl after all). Whatever the reason is, I was never a fan (sorry to the FOUR friends I have that have modeled for them….freaking L.A.). With the recent statements their CEO has made degrading women smaller than size large my dislike has turned into utter and complete hatred of the company. I am truly disgusted beyond belief. My point here being is please don’t mistake this post for having ANY support for their company. None. Zero. Zip.

While in full volatile hatred of their company and my immense love for homeless folks, it made sense why multiple friends sent me this youtube clip and urged me to take pictures and accompany them with the hashtag #fitchthehomeless if I saw any locals around town wearing A&F, assuming I would be totally ecstatic about the idea. “Homeless people are getting clothes AND Abercrombie & Fitch are being sent a message!” one exclaimed. Sure, I see their point and it is true. My problem however, lies in the undertones of the other message being sent; that homeless people are the lowest of the low and therefore adorning homeless people in their clothes is obviously the quickest, easiest way to piss off Mike Jefferies, CEO of A&F. Along with the implication that homeless people are needy and therefore should and will wear whatever crap we give them and be thankful. I won’t wear this garbage, but they should, in order to prove my point because they fit the proper stigma to do so.

I am not okay with this.

Please don’t misunderstand me; I pray to God that no one ever shops at Abercrombie & Fitch again. I will never ever ever (EVER!) support a company that assists in the self-esteem suicide our nation seems to be insistent upon being catalyst for, but I urge you to also think of the other ‘other’ here. The one that is a human being without a home, not a social cause or a means to an end. There are very few other people groups I can imagine social media being called upon to overtly typecast for the sake of tweets and instagram pictures, as this project does. Can you imagine how it would go over if you were to say “We’re going to pass out these clothes to Asian people only, to stick it to this guy! We’ll show him! He’ll be so pissed Asians are wearing his clothes!” I’m not sure that would go over too well. I certainly would not back it. So perhaps we should lend the same courtesy to the residents of Skid Row and consider donating things they may actually need…or even want.

Okay, phew. I will now hop off my soapbox. Dangit, it’s high. Can someone assist me with a ladder? Awesome, thanks. [drop the mic]

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All Dressed Up….

Mr. C: (after bursting through my office door): Miss R., Miss R. (almost in tears), I am so sorry I missed our appointment yesterday!

Me: It’s okay, we can reschedule no problem.

Mr. C: You see, I fell asleep and by the time I woke up you were already gone for the day, please forgive me!

Me: You are forgiven! I promise it wasn’t a big deal, let’s just reschedule.

Mr. C: Then all night long I dreamed that I stood you up for prom, you looked lovely in your purple dress by the way, but I never made it to you and you were so sad and your flowers were wilted. Oh gosh, please just forgive me, I know this can’t be easy on you…did it bring back painful memories?

Me: Ummm well no, it didn’t. Thank you for your concern, but I promise it’s ok.

Mr. C: Oh man really? Here this whole time I took you for one of those sensitive heartbroken ladies, you know the kind; lots of cats, hates talking about relationships, the slightest thing makes them mope around wishing they were married. Gosh, I feel so better now. I’ll be seein’ ya!

 

Huh. Well, I’m glad HE feels better.
(I’m not like that, right guys? Guys?! Hello?? Is anyone out there??)

 

 

 

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Will Work For Food.

First of all, before I go any further, let me give a warm salutation to all 54 followers!

Woohoo! Now we’re cooking with gas! Actually, let’s not say gas, maybe we are cooking with charcoals? No, maybe solar power. Yeah, I like that better; more cost effective and better for the environment. We are definitely cooking with solar power!

But seriously, in all sincerity, THANK YOU. Every time someone new follows this blog or reposts it I don’t get so much squealy-excited (well, alright maybe I do that too), as I get awww-that-is-so-sweet!-humbled excited. I love these folks around me and the chance to bring a small glimpse of their faces to you all brings me such delight and knowing that you guys like it too, means so much to me. Trust me when I say that if I could give each of you a magical unicorn of your own, I would, but unfortunately for now, they are not ready to leave the unicorn farm haven I have created for them in my backyard. Maybe someday….

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Anyway, now that we are all feeling warm and lovey (and maybe a little weirded out?), without further ado:

Last night I turned the refrigerator so high that this morning upon my arrival to work it was pointed out to me that I froze everyone’s food in our office break-room. I then followed up the unpleasantries by burning popcorn and making everything smell like ash (whoops?)…..

Mr. JW: Aww Miss R., why did you do that, I like working with both you and Miss E.

Me: What do you mean? You still can!

Mr. JW: Well, I am afraid that either you will get fired for ruining things or Miss E. will quit because you are making everyone miserable.

Mr. TF (chiming in): Oh gosh, if you get fired your whole life will be a mess; you’re single, you can’t cook and you break things, if they can your a$$ then you’ll be broke too! You better write an apology note and fix this before it’s too late. This could get ugly.

Sadly, my first thought before defending myself was, I’m a social worker, does he not realize I already AM broke?!

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Sugar In The Raw.

While discussing substance abuse this morning in a group, one of my residents made the astute claim that “Anything that can take you from sugar to shit is obviously bad for you.”

With said logic, I think perhaps it’s time I stop dating.

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Have You Taken Your Homeless Vaccine Today?

I have been thinking all week that I’d like to tattoo this on my forehead, but I haven’t figured out the right font, so for now I will just post it here:

“Perhaps we’d be better served talking about people who are homeless instead of the disembodied idea of “homelessness.” It’s not like “polio” that needed a vaccine. Homeless people are people who have need human needs.”
–Justin McRoberts

Can I get a witness?!
[Please note that if I were to get paid per typo I write, I'd be a bazillionaire -- that said, I was about 3 seconds away from posting "Can I get a whiteness?" just now. (answer: yes actually, I can.)]

Now go check out Justin’s latest sick-wicked-awesome project, it’s seriously blowing my mind.

 

Disclaimer: My apologies for deviating away from telling a ridiculous story that would quite possibly end in my befuddlement again today, but I just haaaad to share this, ok? Cool. You guys are the best.

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Something Good In This World.

I had a little anecdote all geared up and ready for you folks yesterday, but in the wake of the tragedy in Boston, to write about burnt popcorn and my inability to properly use our office refrigerator felt a bit insolent. To be quite honest, I’ve felt a giant myriad of emotions in the last few days as I have been reminded in several instances how unsafe the world can be, both locally and across the nation. I find myself overwhelmingly tempted to  pull an Alice, jump straight into the Rabbit Hole and completely check out of reality or perhaps worse, become so focused on the disparity of humanity that I forget that there is still good in this world. It’s a temptation I face almost daily walking the streets of Skid Row, there is a lot of pain here…but just as was seen in the faces of the heroes clambering to helps victims of yesterday’s attack, there is also a staggering amount of light to behold in the world as well and I count myself blessed to be able to get a glimpse of it, when I am not too lost in myself to see it (which unfortunately is much more often than I’d like to admit). If you feel so inclined, I’d love to hear where you see that light, that love, that goodness. Let’s encourage each other today.

This morning, I came across this song (Oh Twitter, you’ve done it again, pal.) and was profoundly encouraged by it’s poignancy and relevance. May you be as well.

 

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Three Strikes, You’re Out.

Mr. DT: So Miss R., Opening Day for the Dodgers was this week, are you pretty excited about that?

Me: YES! So excited! I love this time of year SO MUCH! The Dodgers make me soooo happy!

Mr. DT: Soooo also, are you pretty excited that Christmas is only 8 months away?

Me: Ummm well, it seems a bit far off, but I am pretty obsessed with Christmas, so you know I get excited the closer it gets, in fact I was just telling someone that I wish it was Christmastime again….why, do you ask?

Mr. DT: Before I get to that, I was also going to tell you, we are watching a movie with Justin Timberlake in it, in the Community Room in a few minutes, do you want to come watch with us? Oh yeah and by the way, can I have a dollar?

Me: Huh? No. What? I’m sorry, you know I am not allowed to give you money, we’ve talked about that.

Mr. DT: Dangit! I was really hoping that if I got you thinking about Christmas, baseball and Justin Timberlake that you’d be so overly excited that you’d forget that rule and just want to make me as happy as I just made you by bringing up all you crazy obsessions. Eh whatever, I tried…see ya.

I’ll be honest it almost worked.

p.s. Next time you think your job conditions are less than perfect, please note that I have now been eaten alive by bedbugs for the second time in my career. Thank you.

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help wanted.

After helping one of my residents with a problem this afternoon he offered to kiss me as a way to say ‘thank you.’

Does considering it mean I should start dating more or that I need a new job?

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